“Well, How Did I Get Here?” Dealing with Imposter Syndrome
By: Carolyn Moriarty
At some point, many of us have felt like we don’t belong in a space we’ve worked hard to get into. We brush off accomplishments as luck or timing and secretly wonder when everyone else will figure out that we don’t deserve to be there. This pervasive self-doubt has a name: imposter syndrome.
The tricky thing about imposter syndrome is that it feels pretty convincing. It feeds off our fears, gently suggesting that any success we’ve had is fleeting, that we’ve somehow deceived others into thinking we’re capable. These feelings of inadequacy are common, but they are far from harmless.
When we constantly question our abilities or attribute our achievements to external factors, it diminishes our confidence. We find ourselves saying “yes” to things we shouldn’t, overworking to prove ourselves, or worse, holding back from opportunities for fear of being “found out.”
The reality is, imposter syndrome is built on false beliefs. It feeds off perfectionism, unfair comparisons, and the deeply ingrained idea that we always need to prove our value.
Signs of Imposter Syndrome
Sometimes, it’s hard to differentiate imposter syndrome from normal nervousness or humility. Here are a few signs to watch for:
Downplaying your accomplishments (“It wasn’t a big deal.”)
Feeling like you’ve fooled others into thinking you’re capable
Constantly comparing yourself to others and feeling like you’re never good enough
Avoiding challenges out of fear of failure or embarrassment
Overpreparing or overworking in an effort to prove you belong
What Causes Imposter Syndrome?
Imposter syndrome often stems from deeply ingrained messages about success and self-worth. For example, you might have grown up in an environment where praise was rare, or constantly felt like the expectations others had for you were always being raised. Societal pressures and stereotypes can intensify these feelings, particularly for individuals in underrepresented groups who may bear the added burden of having to prove they belong.
Challenging Imposter Syndrome
Recognize these thoughts for what they are: intrusive and unhelpful. Remind yourself that feeling like an imposter doesn’t make it a reality.
Take responsibility for the hard work and effort you’ve put in. Your success is earned, not the merely the result of luck or accidents.
Accept that mistake are part of growth. Rather than seeing mistakes as proof of inadequacy, treat them as opportunities to learn and grow.
Avoid the comparison trap. Everyone is on their own unique journey, with struggles you may not see. Comparing yourself to others only reinforces the false belief that they are more capable or deserving than you.
Give Yourself Permission to Be Enough
Imposter syndrome can feel lonely, but it’s a common experience that affects people at every stage of success. You don’t need to prove your worth to anyone—not even to yourself. By learning to recognize and challenge these thoughts, you can make room to appreciate your achievements and quiet the inner voice that tells you you’re not enough.
In the process, give yourself permission to trust that you belong exactly where you are. Because you do.
Seeking Mental Health Support
Building and maintaining healthy self-esteem is a lifelong process that involves self-reflection, self-acceptance, and self-care. If you want to take steps to prioritize your self-esteem, consider scheduling an appointment with Chicago Counseling Center. Meet our team to learn more!
