5 Ways to Heal Your Inner Child




by Carolyn Moriarty, LCPC



As adults, we often overlook a significant aspect of ourselves—the inner child. That younger version of who we once were holds the key to unlocking creativity, healing past wounds, and discovering a deep sense of joy and authenticity within us.

What does the “inner child” mean?

The inner child is a psychological concept that represents the childlike aspects of our personality, emotions, and experiences that we carry within us into adulthood. It’s the part of us that retains the innocence, wonder, creativity, and vulnerability of our childhood selves. Sometimes, as adults, we might need to reconnect with and nurture our inner child to heal past wounds, rediscover joy, and foster self-compassion.

Reconnecting with our inner child doesn’t mean regressing to an immature state but rather acknowledging and nurturing the part of ourselves that craves acknowledgment, healing, and love.


What causes inner child wounds?

Inner child wounds can stem from various experiences and circumstances during childhood. These wounds often shape how individuals perceive themselves, their relationships, and the world around them. Healing involves acknowledging these past experiences, understanding their impact, and engaging in self-compassion and therapy to address and heal these wounds.


Here are some common causes of inner child wounds:

  • Trauma: physical, emotional, or sexual abuse or significant family disruptions like divorce or loss can impact the inner child, leaving emotional scars that persist into adulthood.
  • Unmet Needs: when basic emotional or psychological needs (love, attention, validation) aren’t fulfilled during childhood, it can create a sense of inadequacy or unworthiness in the inner child.
  • Invalidation: growing up in an environment where emotions are dismissed, invalidated, or ridiculed can cause the inner child to suppress feelings, leading to difficulties in expressing emotions as adults.
  • Conditional Love: love or approval that’s contingent on meeting specific expectations can make the inner child feel unworthy or lead to the development of people-pleasing tendencies.
  • Family Dynamics: dysfunctional family patterns, such as parental conflicts, addiction issues, or a lack of emotional connection within the family, can contribute to inner child wounds.
  • Cultural and Societal Factors: societal pressures, cultural expectations, bullying, or experiences of discrimination during childhood can deeply affect the inner child’s sense of self-worth and belonging.
  • Early Limiting Beliefs: messages received during childhood, like being told you’re not good enough, smart enough, or lovable, can form deep-seated beliefs that persist into adulthood.


How to Heal your Inner Child

Engaging with your inner child can involve various activities like:

  • Inner Child Work: this involves exploring past experiences, acknowledging and addressing unmet needs or unresolved emotions from childhood.
  • Creative Expression: activities like drawing, painting, writing, or playing music can help you connect with the imaginative and playful side of your inner child.
  • Revisiting Childhood Activities:  embrace the activities that brought joy to you as a child.  Engage in creative endeavors—drawing, storytelling, dancing—anything that sparks joy and allows you to tap into that carefree, imaginative spirit.
  • Self-Compassion: practicing self-compassion involves treating yourself with kindness, understanding, and care, just as you would comfort a distressed child.
  • Mindfulness and Meditation: these practices can help you explore your emotions and thoughts in a non-judgmental way, fostering a deeper connection with your inner self, including the inner child.


Remember, as you embrace your inner child, you’re embracing your complete self. It’s about integrating those childlike qualities—curiosity, wonder, and spontaneity—into your adult life, fostering a sense of wholeness and authenticity. The way we treat our inner child reflects how we treat ourselves. Practice self-compassion by being gentle, nurturing, and understanding toward yourself. Treat your inner child with the kindness and care they deserve.



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